Morning Prayer: Thu, 20 Oct – Psalm 119:118-120; Nehemiah 8:9; James 3:3-8 ~ when trembling is a good thing

+ In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen!

Opening Sentence

I have come to seek You, O God, just as I am I come.
I have come to be sought by You, just as I am I come.

I will wait for the Lord. My soul waits, and in His word do I hope.

Reading: Psalm 119:118-120 (NLT)

You have rejected all who stray from your decrees. They are only fooling themselves. You skim off the wicked of the earth like scum; no wonder I love to obey your laws! I tremble in fear of you; I stand in awe of your regulations.

Reading: Nehemiah 8:9 (NLT)

Then Nehemiah the governor, Ezra the priest and scribe, and the Levites who were interpreting for the people said to them, “Don’t mourn or weep on such a day as this! For today is a sacred day before the Lord your God.” For the people had all been weeping as they listened to the words of the Law.

Reading: James 3:3-8 (NLT)

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Dear brothers and sisters, not many of you should become teachers in the church, for we who teach will be judged more strictly. Indeed, we all make many mistakes. For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.

We can make a large horse go wherever we want by means of a small bit in its mouth. And a small rudder makes a huge ship turn wherever the pilot chooses to go, even though the winds are strong. In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches.

But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire. And among all the parts of the body, the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, for it is set on fire by hell itself.

People can tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and fish, but no one can tame the tongue. It is restless and evil, full of deadly poison.
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The fear of the Lord can help us… to be directed in the particular path that will best help us in our own journey with God. The paths may be as varied as the people! Specific obedience us what is required.

Celtic Daily Prayer – Aidan Readings for 20 Oct.

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PrayerSaint Piran (sixth century) “A Call to New Beginnings”

Dare me to follow You, and I will obey Your truth. Always keep me faithful.

+ When things seem good and all my work yields harvest, and service at last is crowned with rich success, when all my work is bathed in earthly glory, help me to remember my beginning and my end is You.

Set me to following You. I will obey Your truth. Always keep me faithful.

+ Help me remember, Lord, that You are Alpha and Omega, that all the story lies within Your hands. You are at my beginning and ending.

Calling me on… and on.
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“Here In Your Presence” – New Life Worship

Blessing

May the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ go with you, wherever He may send you. May He guide you through the wilderness, protect you through the storm. May He bring you home rejoicing at the wonders He has shown you. May He bring you home rejoicing once again into our doors.

+ In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen!

Daily Reading: 29 March – The Fall – Genesis 3 ~ paradise lost

First Tuesday of Easter

+ In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen!

This is the day which was made by the Lord: let us rejoice and be glad, alleluia.

E100:1.b In the Beginning: The Fall – Genesis 3 (NLT)

The Man and Woman Sin

Genesis 3 The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?”

2 “Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3 “It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.’”

4 “You won’t die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5 “God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.”

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6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7 At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.

8 When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”

10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”

11 “Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?”

12 The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.”

13 Then the Lord God asked the woman, “What have you done?”

“The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s why I ate it.”

14 Then the Lord God said to the serpent,

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“Because you have done this, you are cursed more than all animals, domestic and wild. You will crawl on your belly, groveling in the dust as long as you live. 15 And I will cause hostility between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring. He will strike your head, and you will strike his heel.”

16 Then he said to the woman,

“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”

17 And to the man he said,

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“Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat, the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it. 18 It will grow thorns and thistles for you, though you will eat of its grains. 19 By the sweat of your brow will you have food to eat until you return to the ground from which you were made. For you were made from dust, and to dust you will return.”

Paradise Lost: God’s Judgment

20 Then the man—Adam—named his wife Eve, because she would be the mother of all who live. 21 And the Lord God made clothing from animal skins for Adam and his wife.

22 Then the Lord God said, “Look, the human beings have become like us, knowing both good and evil. What if they reach out, take fruit from the tree of life, and eat it? Then they will live forever!” 23 So the Lord God banished them from the Garden of Eden, and he sent Adam out to cultivate the ground from which he had been made. 24 After sending them out, the Lord God stationed mighty cherubim to the east of the Garden of Eden. And he placed a flaming sword that flashed back and forth to guard the way to the tree of life.

Prayer

Lord God, Maker of heaven and earth – nothing is hidden from your sight; all is exposed. Against you have I sinned.

+ Forgive me – for doubting your Word.
+ Forgive me – for thinking that I know what’s best for me.
+ Forgive me – for participating in the schemes of the evil one.
+ Forgive me – for overstepping the boundaries you have established for me.
+ Forgive me – for compounding the effects of Adam and Eve’s sin.

Heavenly Father – Forgive me my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me; and deliver me from evil. Alert me to the temptations around me, and lead me in the path of righteousness for your name’s sake. Lord, have mercy – through Jesus Christ, your Son and my Savior, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God forever. Amen.

“The Lords Prayer” – Andrea Bocelli

Closing Sentence

The Lord bless us, and keep us from all evil, and bring us to everlasting life.

+ In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen!

The Inevitable Misery of Living for Yourself – Re-blog / The Gospel Coalition

THE INEVITABLE MISERY of LIVING for YOURSELF
by Colin Smith and Kristen Wetherell / The Gospel Coalition

[click here for original article]

One of the barriers that holds many people back from knowing, being filled with, and being controlled by the love of Christ is the idea that true happiness can only be found if I am free to live for myself.

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Living for yourself is the default option for every person. This means that unless something happens to bring about a change. we end up living for ourselves. The Bible says this quite clearly: “All seek their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ” (Phil. 2:21).

I want you to see the absolute misery of this position.

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If you live for yourself, you make yourself both the boss and the servant. You put yourself on both sides of the ledger. You are the one who is served, and you are the one who does the serving. The demands you set are the demands you must meet. The experience of the person who lives for self is like “robbing Peter to pay Paul,” and you are always in conflict.

If you live for yourself, you will be in the strange position of beating yourself up because you are unhappy. See if any of these profiles sound familiar.

The Displeased Beauty

You look in the mirror and “self the boss” is not happy because she wants to have a more pleasing image. Though she has been woven together wonderfully by God, all she sees are the imperfections of face and body. Fashion magazines are her bible, where she goes for blueprints of how a young woman is supposed to look in the eyes of a critical and materialistic world. “Self the boss” is perpetually displeased, no matter how many hours she spends at the gym, or putting on makeup, or dressing to please the world’s tastes.

So she beats up on “self the servant” for not being pretty enough. Instead of soaking in God’s truth that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, she punishes herself with lies that say no one will ever love her. She brings to mind the fear associated with rejection from ugliness. “Self the servant” had better step up and cultivate beauty, or else she will be lost forever to a world that tramples over uninteresting people.

The Disappointed Retiree

You look at your life, and “self the boss” says he should have accomplished more. When he looks back on the past decades, all he sees are broken family relationships that have yet to be mended and years of unsatisfying work. “Self the boss” accuses him of wasting time, gifts, and money trying to be someone he never did become. He asks, Did any good come from my life?

Who’s to blame? “Self the servant” gets beaten up for not measuring up. “Self the servant” turns to drinking away the memories and holes himself up in the home. “Self the servant” resolves that his life was no contribution to anyone, so there’s no use putting forth any more effort. “Self the servant” will simply put on a mask of false contentment for the rest of his days and hope no one notices he failed.

The Frantic Executive

You consider your work achievements and bank account, and “self the boss” is never pleased. Though he is a business executive whose job is to watch over the work of others, the person he most “micro-manages” is himself. Money and approval from higher-ups determines his happiness, so if either of these is lacking “self the boss” grows even more displeased, irritated with others, and fearful of failure. When the next-door neighbor pulls into the drive with a brand new car, “self the boss” says, He looks a lot better than you. Make it your aim to match him!

“Self the servant” then throws himself into his work, trying to appease “self the boss,” make more money, buy more expensive items, and earn the good glances of others. But “self the servant” is never fully satisfied because, at the end of each day, he retires to bed no happier than when he awoke.

The Concerned Parent

You look at your children, and “self the boss” sees the opportunity for academic success, good physical health, and lifelong happiness. “Self the boss” expects perfection in her ability to guide, teach, and nurture the faith of her kids. The standard for “self the boss” is to raise children who reflect positively on all the hard work she put in for so many years.

So “self the servant” cannot understand why she grows increasingly stressed when her children make poor decisions, run into troubles with other children, or struggle in their coursework. “Self the servant” cries herself to sleep at night, wondering where she went wrong in her parenting. She’s ever more fearful for the outcome of her children, because “self the servant” has determined that their success lies in her hands.

The Hardworking Christian

You consider the fruit of your life in the past year, and “self the boss” sees good things: kindness, self-control, love. He believes that all of these have come from the many mornings spent studying the Bible, from prayer, from faithfully going to church, and from spending time with other Christians. “Self the boss” reads the checklist of good works and sees it is in good shape.

So when he realizes that the fruit of humility is missing, “self the servant” beats himself up. He then tries to understand what he must do to fix the problem: Is it more prayer? More Bible reading? More confession? “Self the servant” grows discouraged that his faith is simply not strong enough.

Unrewarded Servant and an Uncrowned King

Suppose at some point, you say to yourself, This is no good, I am living for myself and I am not happy. I’m being too hard on myself. I need to lighten up and give myself a break. So that’s what you do, but here’s the problem: You are still not happy, because while “self the servant” is off the hook, “self the boss” is no longer being served!

Living for yourself is an absolute nightmare. When you lay self out as the master, you end up being crushed as the servant. Then when you lighten up as the servant, you end up being shortchanged as the master. You cannot possibly win. And all around us is a culture that says, “Live for yourself!”

The Bible tells us that Jesus came into the world so that we can live another way: “For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised” (2 Cor. 5:14-15).

It is dangerous to serve an unhappy boss and even more dangerous to serve an uncrowned king. Self is a pretender to the throne of God. What will happen to self and its servants when the true King returns?
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Colin Smith is senior pastor of The Orchard Evangelical Free Church in the northwest suburbs of Chicago and a Council Member with The Gospel Coalition. For more resources by Colin Smith visit Unlocking the Bible, where you can request a free sample of LifeKEYS Daily devotional, listen to the radio program, or browse other gospel-centered, Christ-exalting resources. You can also follow Colin on Twitter.

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Kristen Wetherell is a writer, speaker and the Content Manager of Unlocking the Bible. She’s married to Brad, loves exploring new places, enjoys cooking, and writes music in her spare time. Her desire is to glorify Jesus Christ and edify believers through the written Word. Connect with Kristen at her website or on Twitter @KLWetherell.

THANKSGIVING: My Moms Chose Adoption ~ “9 Things You Should Know About Adoption” (Reblog – The Gospel Coalition)

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Peanut Gallery – 74 years ago my two moms (birth and adoptive) chose adoption and here I sit married for 48 years with two children and eight grandchildren and we are all most grateful for the choices these women made. Life itself is the greatest gift of all – sine qua non. The following article summarizes the current state of adoption in our country. I was one of the fortunate ones. Thank you moms.
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9 Things You Should Know About Adoption – click for original article

Each year in November, the President of the United States issues a proclamation to announce National Adoption Month, a time dedicated to raising awareness of the need for adoptive families and to encourage citizens to become involved in the lives of children and youth in foster care. Here are nine things you should know about adoption in America:

1. Adoption has been and remains rare. Between 1973 and 2002, the percentage of ever-married women 18–44 years of age who had adopted a child fluctuated between 1.3 and 2.2 percent. Men were twice as likely as women 18–44 years of age to have adopted a child. Among ever-married persons, men (3.8 percent) were more than 2.5 times as likely as women (1.4%) to have adopted.

2. Relinquishment of infants at birth is extremely rare. Only 1 percent of children born in the United States in 1996–2002 to women 18–44 years of age as of 2002 were relinquished for adoption within their first month of life.

3. Surveys reveal that women currently seeking to adopt would prefer to adopt a child younger than two years old, without a disability, and a single child rather than two or more siblings. (Two-thirds of women would not accept a child 13 years of age or older or a child with a severe disability.) The data also suggest that women would prefer to adopt a girl rather than a boy.

4. In 2012 there were 397,122 children in foster care and 101,666 waiting to be adopted. The average age of a child in foster care waiting to be adopted was 7.8 years old. The average age of children in foster care being adopted was 6.3 years old.

5. On average, a child will wait three years in foster care awaiting adoption. About 55 percent of these children have had three or more placements with foster care families, and 33 percent had changed elementary schools five or more times, losing relationships and falling behind educationally.

6. In 1851 Massachusetts passed the Adoption of Children Act, the first modern adoption law in America. The law is considered an important turning point because t required judges to determine that adoptive parents had “sufficient ability to bring up the child” and that “it is fit and proper that such adoption should take effect.”

7. The beginning of the foster care concept in America was the Orphan Train Movement. Between 1854 and 1929, as many as 250,000 children from New York and other Eastern cities were sent by train to towns in midwestern and western states, as well as Canada and Mexico. According to the Adoption history project, families interested in the orphans showed up to look them over when they were placed on display in local train stations, and placements were frequently made with little or no investigation or oversight.

8. Each year thousands of U.S. citizens adopt children from abroad. In 2013, Americans adopted 7,092 children from abroad. The total number of intercountry adoptions from 1999 to 2013 was 249,694. According to UNICEF, approximately 13 million have lost both parents.

9. The Child Welfare Information Gateway, a government-funded adoption information service, estimates the average U.S. adoption costs of various types of adoptions:

Intercountry Adoptions — $15,000 – $30,000

Independent Adoptions — $8,000 – $40,000+

Licensed Private Agency Adoptions — $5,000 – $40,000+

Facilitated/Unlicensed Adoptions — $5,000 – $40,000+

Public Agency (Foster Care) Adoptions — $0 – $2,500

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Joe Carter is an editor for The Gospel Coalition and the co-author of How to Argue Like Jesus: Learning Persuasion from History’s Greatest Communicator. You can follow him on Twitter.

New study: The Family Table is an antidote for child-rearing problems—and for life… (Reblog)

by CatholicismUSA, catholicismusa.com
June 10 02:05 PM

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(CUSA) – The American College of Pediatrics recently released a study that demonstrates what common sense already tells you—that children are better behaved psychologically and physically if they eat their meals at the family table. They are also more stable and confident in their interactions with others outside the home.

The following report was written for pediatricians and is filled with dry statistics but it should confirm what you already know: a healthy society stems from healthy family life and the source of that life is not the government. — Ed.

(ACP) – Over the past three decades, family time at the dinner table and family conversation in general has declined by more than 30%. Families with children under age 18 report having family dinners three to four times per week. One third of families with 11- to 18-year-olds eat one or two meals a week at most together. Only one fourth eat seven or more family meals per week.

The experience at the meal table has also declined in quality with the increase in distractions such as television watching, Smartphone apps, text messaging, and telephone conversations.2 Barriers to family meals cited by parents include: too little time, child and adult schedule challenges, and food preparation.

Most parents, however, say they place a high value on family meals, ranking them above every other activity (including vacations, playing together and religious services) in helping them connect with their families and kids. Most wish they had more family dinners.

When evaluating the scientific research on the effect of ”Family Table,” it is important to take into consideration the number of family members present and the frequency of the family meals, as well as the type of study (cross-sectional versus longitudinal). Studies have found that benefits such as maintenance of normal weight, healthy eating patterns, and less disordered eating are found when families eat at least three meals per week together.

It is also difficult to differentiate the effect of overall quality of childrearing of parents who practice family meals from the benefits of the family meal itself. However, even the most rigid research demonstrates the benefits to be specific to the family table, especially for adolescents who are less likely to experience depressive symptoms if there are more family meals.

Family meals are powerful for many reasons. First, meal times impact all of our senses – the sight, touch, taste, and smell of food, as well as listening to family conversation. Family meals offer the opportunity to spend time together, reconnect after a busy day, communicate with and listen to each other, share values and ideas, and problem solve.

Family meals also contribute to traditions that tie families together. A special food for a birthday celebration, a favorite place to eat for special occasions, a cultural or ethnic food unique to the family’s heritage – these become traditions that provide meaning and context to children as they grow.

Family meals provide structure for the day, allowing children to feel more secure and safe, knowing what to expect. They also permit parental monitoring of children’s moods, behavior, and activities, providing parents with insight into the emotional well-being of their children.

When extended to neighbors and friends, family meals allow children to learn and appreciate social interactions, understand the importance of community, and experience different ideas while under the guidance of their parents.

The family table is one of the very few places that children can observe their parents interact, negotiate, solve problems, express emotions and treat one another with respect. A child’s world is mostly spent with peers and teachers; the family table gives them a chance to see how adults interact and cooperate.

Teens that have frequent family dinners are likelier to get better grades in school. “Teens who have dinner with their families seven times a week are almost 40 percent likelier to say they receive mostly A’s and B’s in school compared to teens who have dinner with their families two or fewer times a week (62 percent vs. 45 percent).”

Mealtimes offer unique opportunities for children to learn as they hear longer discussions that include explanations and narratives.

Children expand their vocabularies as they hear new words used in conversations. There is a connection between children’s language experiences during their preschool years and their future literacy skills in grade school and high school.

More family talk occurs during mealtime than during any other activity, including playing with toys and storybook reading.

Children ages nine to fourteen who have more regular dinners with their families have more healthful dietary patterns, including eating more fruits and vegetables, less saturated and trans fat, fewer fried foods and sodas, lower glycemic load, and more vitamins and other micro-nutrients.

Children are 35% less likely to engage in disordered eating.

Children are 24% more likely to eat healthier foods.

Preschool-aged children exposed to the three household routines of regularly eating the evening meal as a family, obtaining adequate nighttime sleep, and having limited screen-viewing time had a 40% lower prevalence of obesity than those exposed to none of these routines. These household routines may be promising targets for obesity-prevention efforts in early childhood.

Children are 12% less likely to become obese just by eating family meals.

Adolescents from homes where the family regularly eats meals together (more than five meals per week) have a much lower likelihood of disordered eating (weight control tactics: self-induced vomiting, laxative use, diet pills, fasting, eating very little food, using food substitutes, skipping meals, and smoking.)

[The “teen data” is particularly compelling and is a laundry list for most teenager problems that are often augmented in adulthood]

+ Teens that eat with the family eat more vegetables, fruits, and dairy products.
+ Teens having fewer family dinners report more TV watching during meals and less talk during dinner, and express that the meals do not last long enough.
+ Teens who have infrequent family dinners (fewer than three per week) are two and a half times more likely to use marijuana.
+ Teens who have infrequent family dinners are twice as likely to use alcohol.
+ Teens who have infrequent family dinners are four times more likely to use tobacco.
+ Teens who have infrequent family dinners are more likely to have access to prescription drugs in order to get high.
+ Teens who have infrequent family meals (fewer than two meals per week) are three times more likely to report that at least half of their friends use marijuana.
+ Teens who have infrequent family meals are twice as likely to know a friend who uses Ecstasy.
+ Teens who have infrequent family meals are 80% more likely to know a friend who abuses prescription drugs.
+ Teens who had more frequent family dinners were less likely to engage in sexual activity.
+ Teens who had more frequent family dinners were less likely to experience depression.
+ Teens having frequent family dinners are more likely to report having excellent relationships with their family.
+ One-and-a-half times more likely to have an excellent relationship with their mother. Twice as likely to have an excellent relationship with father. Twice as likely to have an excellent relationship with sibling(s).

71% of teenagers in one survey said that they consider talking/catching up, and spending time with family members as the best part of family dinners.

The more frequent the family meals, the better the emotional health of the adolescent, according to a study of more than 26,000 Canadian teens between 11 and 15 years of age.

Teens with more frequent family meals had fewer emotional and behavioral problems. Teens were more trusting and had more helpful behaviors toward others. Teens had higher life satisfaction regardless of family economics.

When families regularly share meals together, everyone benefits ─ the children, parents and even the community. Making the “Family Table” a priority from an early age can serve as a “vaccine” against many of the harms that come to children from a hurried lifestyle. Pediatricians should inform parents of the benefits of the Family Table and regularly encourage its implementation.

In a day when digital distractions are rampant, the simplicity of this concept can be refreshing and encouraging to parents.

Primary Authors: Jane Anderson, MD, FCP and Den Trumbull, MD, FCP