Resolve Conflict by Confessing Your Part – Rick Warren

Peanut Gallery: Conflict resolution begins with you.

When you’re wrong, admit it. And when you’re right, shut up!

Resolve Conflict by Confessing Your Part by Rick Warren

Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? First, take the wood out of your own eye. Then you will see clearly to take the dust out of your friend’s eye. (Matthew 7:3-5 NCV)

When you are faced with a conflict, instead of accusing, attacking, or blaming the other person, begin with humility. This is true even if the conflict is 90% their fault.

Everyone has blindspots. No one is perfect and there are things we do that contribute toward a conflict that we have difficulty seeing.

So, before I start attacking and blaming, I need to do a frank evaluation and ask, “How much of this conflict is my fault?” I need to do an honest checkup and admit my part. Continue reading “Resolve Conflict by Confessing Your Part – Rick Warren” →

Morning Reading: Proverbs 21.2 NLT

“People may be right in their own eyes, but the Lord examines their heart.” Proverbs 21.2 NLT

Evening Reading: Proverbs 20.27 NLT

“The Lord’s light penetrates the human spirit, exposing every hidden motive.”
Proverbs 20.27 NLT

Co-dependence – our societal disease.

Peanut Gallery: Co-dependence is a natural consequence of our “infinite capacity for self-deception.” We cannot look at ourselves squarely in the face of God’s truth, so we we glance at others sideways as well. It truly is a societal disease.

Rebecca Hamilton has nailed it with her definition: “Co-dependence is… the fine art of making excuses for and buying into the lies of miscreants in such a way that you help them continue misbehaving. Meanwhile, you sacrifice yourself for them and their lies.”

Why do we continue to enable other people’s bad behavior? Ask yourself – “For whom am I continually making excuses and why?” If we are honest, it’s not about them, it’s about us… lying to ourselves.

Nothing will ever change until we face up to our own complicity in perpetuating bad behavior. The definition of insanity – “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Public Catholic

Raise your hand if you have a family member or friend with drug or alcohol problems.

Are your hands at your side? If they are, think carefully.

What about that cousin no one talks about? You know the one; the family embarrassment that you haven’t seen for years but that you know is out there somewhere, tippling, shooting up, snorting or pill-popping their way to an early grave. What about your high school friend who started missing classes and ended up missing in action for life?

Now. I’ll ask again. Raise your hand if you have a family member or friend with drug or alcohol problems.

Ok. Has everybody got a hand in the air? Good. Now we can talk.

If everybody was honest, there were a lot of raised hands. There is a whole lot of drinking and drugging going on. That leads to the conclusion that there…

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